I always thought I never had a work-life balance. I am a mother of two little kids. When someone asks me how I manage kids and work at the same time (especially during the pandemic), I mostly respond that it has been a hell of a lot of work when kids are at home and it’s been difficult to handle kids and work at the same time but I love to see my children in front of my eyes.
Whenever I hear about Work/Life balance, I get stressed out and get worried thinking I might doing something entirely wrong. I feel this way because I know I do not have a balance that I would like to have. I always dreamed of having that perfect family time every day but something comes up and that story goes on. As each day passed by, my guilt of not spending as much time with my family has built up doing nothing.
So I thought, what am I doing wrong here or why am I feeling guilty or being so stressed about it? Then I thought, let me think about it for a second. I am doing my job, taking care of my kids, doing household chores, and spending the rest of my time with my kids and family. All the things I do are important for me and my family. I am not wasting any time here. What if I can make little changes and mindfully think of where I am losing much time, I may make things better.
I spend many months thinking of that perfect time to spend with family or to have some self-time focusing on mind and body. I understood later that there will never be a perfect time. Stressing out or feeling guilty doesn’t help. We may have a busy work schedule. That is completely fine. It is really important of how happy we are once we are done with our work. It may be a couple of hours a day or even an hour a day. We always want to spend more time with our family because that’s our life.
I thought, instead of worrying about If I am being right in spending enough time with family, I tried making little changes in my schedule every day which slowly added up some free time. For example, starting my work early in the morning so I can log off a little bit early and can complete my chores a bit early so I can spend more time reading books with my kids and doing some artwork with them. I feel better as I make some changes to my schedule. I still have a lot of things to adjust and make changes to. It is a continuous process.
Everyone’s life is different. Everyone have their priorities. Nothing is right or wrong. Some people love working for more hours. That doesn’t mean they do not care their personal life. They just love their work. It’s all about what makes you happy. Some people love gardening. They find peace in it. I love having a cup of coffee and having some self-time 🙂
It is about finding happiness in the little things we do every day!
Little changes in our schedules can add a lot of time. Observe where you are spending your time and make changes accordingly.
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